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  Who gets the money?

  by Been there in

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  after reading sevenofnines post i was wondering........who gets the money?.

  who at the top (gb) gets to live in extravagant homes, be driven in limos, take fantastic vacations and buy what ever they want?

  my stupidity maybe showing but where does the gb live, bethel?

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  Thanks everyone for the replies, and thank you Gerard for the articles. Still NO conclusion..................Ugh.....
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  Questions..falling in love with a JW...

  by twizzle in

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  i'd like the answer to the "boy meets worldly girl" question as well.

  i was going to reply to the previous post but realized when i got to the end of my rant that other topics worth considering are mentioned in my message:

  as a "worldly girl" (well, i'm 29) i've spent the last few days reading all i can about "the society" and trying to figure out what the hell has gone on in my life for the past few months.

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  Twizzle, welcome to the board. Please hang around awhile until you atleast have enough strength in you not to be sucked in for emotional reasons. So you can say this is a life I can live with and know all the angles not just the ones they are selling to make a sale. I was raised a JW (got out at 18) I hated every minute in it. The pain you will put your children through is horrible.

  You sound like a caring, understanding and loving person. Could you look your 6 year old that just got hit by a car in the eye and say "I'm sorry honey, you know I love you but I just can't let you have that blood transfusion. I will see you in Paradise." I prayed to God all the time I was growing up that I didn't get hurt bad enough, or sick enough to need one because I knew I would be allowed to die. It really does make a kid doubt their parents love and their own self worth. What if you can't let your 6 year old die, but your husband could and would. Are you going to be prepared for the battle? This is not an option. Read Shunned Fathers story....he has a tale to tell about this subject.

  My other concern is you will have to leave family and friends behind if you want to be a good JW. This is not an option.

  Theirs is not a loving God, and as an organization, they are not a loving people. There are many loving people in the organization, but it is on the organizations terms. They are blind. You will be imprisoned and your personal freedoms striped away one at a time. Be very careful and question ALL things and keep in mind they WILL lie to you.

  I would say mend your broken heart and don't sell your soul to the devil.
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  Snow, Snow, Go away...come again another day...

  by flower in

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  checking in from new england where the snow is still falling steadily.

  its been snowing since friday here and were pretty much buried under about 30 inches already in this particular part of massachusetts.

  just came in from walking to dunkin donuts for coffee after digging out the car.

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  Michelle..........bite your tongue. Okay, maybe just alittle. Twelve inches max. Anything over that is wasted.
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  Changed mind

  by Brummie in

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  twas only a pity party thread but i changed my mind and edited it out, life is to short to focus on the bad.

  move along.....:)

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  Poor Brummie,

  It's not unusual to leave a part of the root in the jaw. My husband has part of his. The root was growing around the nerve ball and it would be worse to take it out. Doing so could cause facial numbness. Best to leave it alone. Wisdom teeth can cause alot of swelling and pain when pulled. I totally feel for you. It will take awhile to heal over if the dentist did'nt put a stitch in it. Keep your tongue off of it.
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  Just wanted to say hello to everyone

  by Sadie5 in

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  it's been awhile since i've been able to post.

  i started working for wal-mart in september and have had a hectic time since then.

  at first i was working all kinds of hours, sometimes morning, sometimes evening, never had two days off in a row so it felt like i was working all the time.

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  How ever slowly, as long as you continue to go forward and not back, then it is good. I was wondering how things were going for you. Merry Christmas and best wishes for the New Year.
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  Waiting on info about "twists????Girls you were saying!!! Jello?

  by mouthy in

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  have heard nothing more about it i need educating

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  Mouthy's back must be feeling better!
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  Blood family vs. adopted family

  by jws in

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  my wife and i are trying to decide where our children should go in the event of our deaths and have narrowed it down to either my brother and his wife or my wife's sister and her husband.

  there are pros and cons for each, but one thing in particular seems important to me.

  my wife is adopted.

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  Who's winning? The Brother or the Sister? Just curious.
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  Jehovah wanted us to have sushi!

  by mpatrick in

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  my friend and i went to have sushi yesterday, the place is downtown and believe it or not, there was an open parking spot right in front of their door...my friend pulled right in and said "jehovah must want us to have sushi today"...imao still!

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  Hi Michelle, good to see you on the board. How are you doing? Great I hope. Good to hear God is still pulling strings for you. Heard anything from Charlie?
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  Blood family vs. adopted family

  by jws in

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  my wife and i are trying to decide where our children should go in the event of our deaths and have narrowed it down to either my brother and his wife or my wife's sister and her husband.

  there are pros and cons for each, but one thing in particular seems important to me.

  my wife is adopted.

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  I also get a sense that you are making your wifes family out to be less real then your own. Families come in many shapes these days. I also understand where you are coming from but please don't take your wifes sense of belonging away from her, where she came from is who she is. There are many families with 3 kids, 3 distinct personalities and both parents wonder who these aliens are so your wifes connection to her siblings can be very normal.

  I say if both families are equal........flip a coin. As far as genetics and DNA goes your children have each other, in that sense they are a unit and together and more closely related then any other relative.

  My raising was quite a mess and I was'nt sure who I was. My Granny raised me. I knew one side of my family (mothers) very well but did not know my fathers at all. Geneticly I was still a puzzle to me. I went to a family reunion and after years of not seeing a maternal aunt, the first thing out of her mouth was........"You look just like your Father". I thought I resembled my Mother. After I finally found my Dad (I was 40) I do look alot like him and I look just like his mother. I now know where alot of my personality comes from. The puzzle is complete now and I can go on with my life as me.

  Being raised in genetics does not always solve the puzzle. I knew 1/2 of me very well.

  It is unlikely that you yourselves will not raise your kids to adulthood and it is great that you can see ahead for them should the worst happen. Fine parents you are. If family history is important then make sure that if you are not there, your kids know where to find their history that is what is most important. Write about you and your wife who you two are. Take videos etc. Tell them who in the families is most like you and who is most like your wife. Leave them something of you. That is what they will want and cherish. Not your brother or her sister..........you and your wife.

  Lastly you mentioned that you would not choose a family whos marriage was breaking up. There is no guarantee that who you pick will remain married. The stress of taking on anothers children could be too much in reality. Then what? Who would get the kids? Many adopted kids live in broken homes. Would your choices......as individuals be good parents? What if the other spouse won custody. Aren't we back where we started?

  Little kids don't care about genetics, they care about LOVE. Teens don't care about genetics or LOVE, they care about their friends and themselves. So as long as your kids are loved when young and know where to find who they are when older then thats all that matters. Not genetics. As I said before if it's that close and you can't decide........flip a coin.

  Just my opinion, Good Luck.
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  Thinking of writing a letter

  by jumper in

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  i am thinking of writing a letter of disasociation, sometimes when faced with a hard decision i make a list, a lot of times it takes a number of lists befor i get any clearity.

  here is my list so far.. 1) do i really need to in order to recover?

  its been almost 8 years doesnt time help to heal?.

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  Jumper,

  Welcome to the board. I totally agree with what Blondie said. It is very healing to write your letter out, say what you have to say...........put it in an envelope and put it away.

  It will all be out of your mind and should you ever decide to send it you have it ready. I believe however that you will be able to move on and not have a need to ever send it. All you really want is to say your peace. You can do that and not burn any bridges.

  Best of luck, what ever you decide.